Children's author Jasmine takes us through our Q&A we ask every Woman in Progress. Check out her article elsewhere on the blog here.
Hands down. No arguments. Childcare. Actually I need to define that. Good childcare. Childcare where you can go off to work and not worry about your kids. Sure you may miss your children but you are in no way worried about them. That makes a huge difference as to how much you can get done and what the quality of that work will be.
Google. It’s so useful for book research and let’s be honest life research. Curious as to why we yawn? Or what property prices have done on my street for the last five years. Or what Tom Hardy’s real voice is? Google is going to help you find an answer.
Checking social media on my phone. It really annoys me that I have a compulsion to do this even on a Saturday evening when I should just be enjoying the company of my husband or my friends.
I would tell myself to treasure the spontaneity that comes with not having kids. Last minute tickets to the theatre - yes please. An impromptu holiday to Sardinia - sign me up.
Think actively about your financial future. Take steps to secure it, be it through investment, savings or entrepreneurship. This will help you no end when you decide to leave the day job and become a full time writer [full time actually means part time because I’ve got kids to look after and a house to run but you know what I mean]
I’m still working on it but I have got better at putting together schedules and sticking to them. Honestly though, an organised Jasmine is still very much a work in progress.
Pick your battles
It’s really important that we don’t compare ourselves to others and if we have children don’t compare them to other children also. It’s easy to say but so much harder to do but I’ve realised that comparison is only designed to make you feel bad. To make you doubt yourself and your parenting, marriage, career…life. What a waste of energy! What an invitation for feeling bad about yourself. Choose to feel great about yourself and the life you are building
I’m busy planning the next Book Bound writing retreat and series of workshops that help children’s writers find and hone their stories and teaches them about the business of publishing. I’m very excited about a couple of fiction projects that I’ve got brewing and I’m also working on a new business endeavour that I hope will help serve under-represented individuals in children’s fiction. Watch this space!